Thursday, July 20, 2017
Monday, May 29, 2017
Latest Development
So Hubby finally goes see Psychiatrist, says session was good! Says he has post traumatic syndrome which causes/leads to personality disorder and OCD. She wants him to get treated medically or she will be unable to continue to see him because his emotions are so high!! That's a work in progress! But what's hitting me now is that she said that him drinking and sex is OCD!!
So wait, you mean to tell me him having sex with me means nothing, or nothing much! It's just to satisfy him and his ego/problem/whatever you want to call it! Don't know how to feel about that!
I feel like I'm just his security blanket and nothing more! 😕😕😕😕🤔🤔🤔🤔
Thursday, May 18, 2017
How and what do you do it
i often sit and analyze my feelings and I realize I feel empty inside! I wonder why! Start thinking something is wrong with me! How do you do it, what fils you up? And what's wrong with me, why can't I get a grip on reality?
Thursday, May 11, 2017
Whats on my mind
At this time alot. My mind keeps going back and forth whether I should stay because he is trying to hard to please me. Most people get credit for that. I always tell people he cook, clean, shop and weighs on me hand and foot. But that is not enough for me. I need someone to bring in some real money to pay bills. We have our own business but the pay is contingent on how many inspections can be completed per week. There are weeks we bring in $300 and weeks where there is nothing. I am very thankful for the job that I have it pays every two weeks but it's steady. After taxes, insurances and 401 there's $800+ coming in. After paying rent, $550 every two weeks. That's leaves gas and food money for two weeks. Which needs to be budgeted carefully.
For some reason he doesn't want to kids to contribute to anything unless he ask. I say they should contribute anyway. They live here, mess here. They should pay part of rent, PSEG, food ANYWAY. But no he doesn't want them to be broke. Hell with that. We broke or should I say I'm broke.
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Yesterday 5/10/2017 I was very angry in the morning, why. Because I had to do both my new job work, along with inspection work while he lays in the bed playing Angry Birds. I have to keep remembering my "Why" Why I want and NEED to leave. My soul is just not happy not matter how i try to find reasons to stay. Maybe it's just not meant for me to stay. What he does for me is fine and appreciated. But my heart is just not here, which makes it very difficult to show any emotion of appreciation.
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Being the person that I am, I realize I still have wifely duties to perform, so I take one for the team and perform them as well as possible. It's very difficult to do so. I have to fantasize about other people just to get off, and that doesn't always work. The climax isn't as intense as it use to be. He then asks me "What happened" I say " I don't know" He knows where I stands with that, I think he just tries very hard to "be the man" but I think deep down he knows he isn't anymore.
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Every now and again, we talk about me wanting to leave and he says for what. I tell him how I not feeling him anymore, we've grown apart. I try to reassure him that I am not leaving for anyone but myself. How I find it difficult to stand him. Then he goes on and say how he believes I was destined to be a "hood rat" be with any and everyone, like my family. I find that very insulting, very insulting. I also tell him how since we are not compatible it also makes it difficult. He turns around and say how much he loves me and what he does for me and how no one would be able to stand being with me since everyone once in awhile I freak out, go nuts but it's because he pushes me to the limit of wanting to hurt myself and not be here anymore because of what I have to endure being with him.
I been with him for 30 years that 's along time to be with one person, sorta, been with others in the mist but you get what I'm saying. I need compassion, compatibility in a relationship. Someone who knows how to handle me. He doesn't know what to do with me. Someone who don't say "What is it now" when I have a problem. I need to know what I can come to you about what ever. I have to admit he is an honest person, sometimes brutally honest, I don't do brutally honest well. I am highly sensitive, I try not to be but that 's just the way I am. I think my skin have toughened up since being married to him. My emotions I try to hide, don't know if I do it well. I don't talk about how I feel much, if at all. I just sigh and try to think of way to make it better.
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He wants me to believe that starting over, being single is stupid. Says who wants to be alone, no one but I would rather be alone than go stir crazy over anyone. I want peace of mind. I don't think I quite have that. I also think he is benefiting way more than I am. Ever since I've known him, I've footed the bill for all that we have. When we needed to move to South Carolina, I worked doubles 3 days straight, one day off and back to work, this is working nights into the day. When we needed to move back to Jersey I was the one who got my job back so we can get an apartment. When we lost our apartment, my mother was the one who let us stay in her apartment, senior building, until we got on our feet, all the while I am going to school for surgical tech in the day. When we moved to Elizabeth, who paid the deposit, when we moved to East Orange, who paid the deposit and rent (everytime). We got evicted twice. We went into a shelter, twice in one year. Who went to school to get a job and an HHA, home health aid, so we can have a steady income and move out. Not saying he never worked, it's just not enough or steady. We have been where we are for 3 years, I am thankful for my understanding and workable landlord. Our rent is suppose to be $1000 paid by the 5th but that got screwed up, landlords fault. and now we pay $1100. $550 every two weeks. He, husband, don't like this place and wants to move. Ha, I'll be damn if I'm gonna work my ass off again to move. No one in this house is complaining but him. He ask if I found us a place, I say no and leave it at that. You want move, come up with the money and pay the rent. I REFUSE to do it again.
I feel like such as fool for going thru this for so long when I know I can have better. He wants me to believe no one will tolerate me. I don't know all that I want but I know what I don't want and that's this marriage. Sometimes I think I am trying to save face and go thru the complications that "might" come. I know sometimes we make things worst in our own minds. I think I am going that. I have to stop and move forward or I will never be happy. He also wants me to believe that Love is better than compatibility. I tell him you NEED both and there are different types of love. So according to him, his love should be enough. But I don't like or need HIS TYPE of love. You know the love that leaves you disappointed and hurt.
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I am already having celebration parties in my head. I have all the people I want in my life over, we are just talking, playing, dancing,eating. The life I want. Just people who only want what's good for me. Happy people, pleasant people. Loving people. If I never have a relationship again, I think I would be good with that. I love people.
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What do I do from here?
Am I making it more difficult than necessary?
Don't know and we'll see.
Thank you for listening to me rant. Love you all.
For some reason he doesn't want to kids to contribute to anything unless he ask. I say they should contribute anyway. They live here, mess here. They should pay part of rent, PSEG, food ANYWAY. But no he doesn't want them to be broke. Hell with that. We broke or should I say I'm broke.
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Yesterday 5/10/2017 I was very angry in the morning, why. Because I had to do both my new job work, along with inspection work while he lays in the bed playing Angry Birds. I have to keep remembering my "Why" Why I want and NEED to leave. My soul is just not happy not matter how i try to find reasons to stay. Maybe it's just not meant for me to stay. What he does for me is fine and appreciated. But my heart is just not here, which makes it very difficult to show any emotion of appreciation.
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Being the person that I am, I realize I still have wifely duties to perform, so I take one for the team and perform them as well as possible. It's very difficult to do so. I have to fantasize about other people just to get off, and that doesn't always work. The climax isn't as intense as it use to be. He then asks me "What happened" I say " I don't know" He knows where I stands with that, I think he just tries very hard to "be the man" but I think deep down he knows he isn't anymore.
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Every now and again, we talk about me wanting to leave and he says for what. I tell him how I not feeling him anymore, we've grown apart. I try to reassure him that I am not leaving for anyone but myself. How I find it difficult to stand him. Then he goes on and say how he believes I was destined to be a "hood rat" be with any and everyone, like my family. I find that very insulting, very insulting. I also tell him how since we are not compatible it also makes it difficult. He turns around and say how much he loves me and what he does for me and how no one would be able to stand being with me since everyone once in awhile I freak out, go nuts but it's because he pushes me to the limit of wanting to hurt myself and not be here anymore because of what I have to endure being with him.
I been with him for 30 years that 's along time to be with one person, sorta, been with others in the mist but you get what I'm saying. I need compassion, compatibility in a relationship. Someone who knows how to handle me. He doesn't know what to do with me. Someone who don't say "What is it now" when I have a problem. I need to know what I can come to you about what ever. I have to admit he is an honest person, sometimes brutally honest, I don't do brutally honest well. I am highly sensitive, I try not to be but that 's just the way I am. I think my skin have toughened up since being married to him. My emotions I try to hide, don't know if I do it well. I don't talk about how I feel much, if at all. I just sigh and try to think of way to make it better.
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He wants me to believe that starting over, being single is stupid. Says who wants to be alone, no one but I would rather be alone than go stir crazy over anyone. I want peace of mind. I don't think I quite have that. I also think he is benefiting way more than I am. Ever since I've known him, I've footed the bill for all that we have. When we needed to move to South Carolina, I worked doubles 3 days straight, one day off and back to work, this is working nights into the day. When we needed to move back to Jersey I was the one who got my job back so we can get an apartment. When we lost our apartment, my mother was the one who let us stay in her apartment, senior building, until we got on our feet, all the while I am going to school for surgical tech in the day. When we moved to Elizabeth, who paid the deposit, when we moved to East Orange, who paid the deposit and rent (everytime). We got evicted twice. We went into a shelter, twice in one year. Who went to school to get a job and an HHA, home health aid, so we can have a steady income and move out. Not saying he never worked, it's just not enough or steady. We have been where we are for 3 years, I am thankful for my understanding and workable landlord. Our rent is suppose to be $1000 paid by the 5th but that got screwed up, landlords fault. and now we pay $1100. $550 every two weeks. He, husband, don't like this place and wants to move. Ha, I'll be damn if I'm gonna work my ass off again to move. No one in this house is complaining but him. He ask if I found us a place, I say no and leave it at that. You want move, come up with the money and pay the rent. I REFUSE to do it again.
I feel like such as fool for going thru this for so long when I know I can have better. He wants me to believe no one will tolerate me. I don't know all that I want but I know what I don't want and that's this marriage. Sometimes I think I am trying to save face and go thru the complications that "might" come. I know sometimes we make things worst in our own minds. I think I am going that. I have to stop and move forward or I will never be happy. He also wants me to believe that Love is better than compatibility. I tell him you NEED both and there are different types of love. So according to him, his love should be enough. But I don't like or need HIS TYPE of love. You know the love that leaves you disappointed and hurt.
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I am already having celebration parties in my head. I have all the people I want in my life over, we are just talking, playing, dancing,eating. The life I want. Just people who only want what's good for me. Happy people, pleasant people. Loving people. If I never have a relationship again, I think I would be good with that. I love people.
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What do I do from here?
Am I making it more difficult than necessary?
Don't know and we'll see.
Thank you for listening to me rant. Love you all.
Sunday, May 7, 2017
Saturday, May 6, 2017
Wednesday, April 19, 2017
He got defensive
So today was a long day for me! Driving! Got home took a nap, then he laid beside me! Aarrggh!!! Anyway! At some point I asked if he was wearing cologne/put on extra! He ask why was I starting with him! WTH!!! I just asked a simple question! That's okay!!!
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He so wants us to swing again!!! I only want to because it will easier to file for divorce, I guess! But I'm not really into that anymore!! Yes I would love to have someone on the side but not this way!
He doesn't want me to leave him! Said I can cheat but don't leave!! Ain't that some shit! Said I am perfect for him but realize he's not perfect for me and he is good with that!! Well I'm not!!! I have to go, I have to go!!! Trying to plan my next move!!!
Monday, April 17, 2017
Where is she
Where is that person who reassures you that everything is going to be okay!
That calming voice, that gentle hand, those eyes that say I am here for you, that hug that makes all of your problems "disappear", that soul that calms YOUR mind, body and soul!
That soft, smooth body you just want to hide inside of and never come out!!
Where is she??? I need her now!!!
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That calming voice, that gentle hand, those eyes that say I am here for you, that hug that makes all of your problems "disappear", that soul that calms YOUR mind, body and soul!
That soft, smooth body you just want to hide inside of and never come out!!
Where is she??? I need her now!!!
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Sunday, April 16, 2017
This is how I feel
This song is perfect for my situation now:
"Blame It On Me"
CHRISETTE MICHELE LYRICS
Play "Blame It On Me"
on Apple Music
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Sometimes you can work it out
Sometimes you can't
Sometimes you're forced to watch everything fall apart -- it's out of your hands.
Sometimes leaving is easy
Sometimes it ain't
Sometimes it hurts to know the loving you had was slowly fading away
[Chorus:]
You can say whatever you like
As long as we just say goodbye
BLAME IT ON ME
Say it's my fault
Say that I left you outside in the cold with a broken heart
I really don't care
I ain't crying no more
Say I'm a liar a cheater
Say anything that you want
As long as it's over
I ain't a quitter
I just ain't the type
I tried to see you through
I tried to make it to the finishing line
Oh you thought it was meant to be yeah
I admit so did I
Every once in a while you think you figured it out
Sometimes your not right
[Chorus]
Yes I love you but I really got to lose you
Freedom is where I want to be
Yes I'll probably always love you
But I'm moving
I got to do this for me
[Chorus x2]
Sometimes you can't
Sometimes you're forced to watch everything fall apart -- it's out of your hands.
Sometimes leaving is easy
Sometimes it ain't
Sometimes it hurts to know the loving you had was slowly fading away
[Chorus:]
You can say whatever you like
As long as we just say goodbye
BLAME IT ON ME
Say it's my fault
Say that I left you outside in the cold with a broken heart
I really don't care
I ain't crying no more
Say I'm a liar a cheater
Say anything that you want
As long as it's over
I ain't a quitter
I just ain't the type
I tried to see you through
I tried to make it to the finishing line
Oh you thought it was meant to be yeah
I admit so did I
Every once in a while you think you figured it out
Sometimes your not right
[Chorus]
Yes I love you but I really got to lose you
Freedom is where I want to be
Yes I'll probably always love you
But I'm moving
I got to do this for me
[Chorus x2]
How much longer
I wonder how much longer I can fake the funk! Right now I'm just playing my part as wife! I feel nothing inside! He touched me nothing, he kisses me nothing! Sex,, nothing
I feel so dead inside! Walking zombie sometimes! Sometimes I just want to go live in a hotel but I keep saying what about my kids, they deserve more than that!! Yes they are over 21 but still how do I explain! Should be easy right?? How tho!!! It's always been about my kids!!!
I feel so dead inside! Walking zombie sometimes! Sometimes I just want to go live in a hotel but I keep saying what about my kids, they deserve more than that!! Yes they are over 21 but still how do I explain! Should be easy right?? How tho!!! It's always been about my kids!!!
Friday, April 14, 2017
Emotional
There are moments when I get overwhelmed with my emotions! I want to express them so much but with someone who's worthy of receiving my love and compassion!! All I can do now is sigh and breath and wait!!!
Friday, March 31, 2017
Wednesday, March 29, 2017
Wanna give up
I have those moment where I want to give up on my plan! But I say you're not gonna know or even be happy if you do! I so hard wanna believe there is someone for "me" I guess! I sometimes don't believe in that "you were made for me" thing! Sometimes you just happen to meet people, hit it off and run with it! I think we are all told a bunch of hog wash when it comes to relationships! Maybe I am just losing my faith in them!
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He goes on his rants almost all the time about God and sometimes how I am want to leave him to go the other side! He thinks I just want Pu$$y I tell him it's not about that! It's the connection, how soft they are!! He says I don't know what to do with it!!! I laugh!! Never had an issue and never will!! He think he's not good enough and I don't appreciate him!!! I try to explain to him I do and whats missing in this relationship! Intimacy, compassion and compatibility!! He want the dictionary definition of those words!! Looked them up and don't agree with them!!!
Then he goes on to say, wouldn't i rather have someone who would die for me, work hard for me over compassion, I said I want it all! He doesn't believe that's possible and afraid that I will be disappointed and heart broken if I go try to find all those things in a person! Now you wanna protect me!!!
So in other words I can't have it all and I must live without one of the most important things I believe is part of a relationship! Mmmm I think not!
So in other words I can't have it all and I must live without one of the most important things I believe is part of a relationship! Mmmm I think not!
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I watched a documentary "A Girl Like Her" it was about a girl who committed Suicide because she was being bullied in school! I saw how the family suffered, I don't want that for my family that's why I am trying to hold on as much as possible! It gets harder and harder by the day!! I know whats it's like to be loved and I want that feeling again! Will I find it, I don't know! But I won't know unless I put myself out there!
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I also in the process of nipping my feelings in the bud hoping they fizzle out!! It's not doing me any good but making me crazier than I already am! If I at least calm them down, I should be okay! Hopefully!!!
I've been told several times I can't make her love me as I do her and I agree! I've come to that conclusion after two years!!! I've decided to slow my role way way down
I've been told several times I can't make her love me as I do her and I agree! I've come to that conclusion after two years!!! I've decided to slow my role way way down
Tuesday, March 28, 2017
Angry
Feeling very very angry right now
Why do we allow people to define us
Tell us what we can't and can have
Destroy our dreams/hopes/beliefs
They don't have that right
#feelingangry
#emotional
Don't text or call me now, I'll be fine!!
Why do we allow people to define us
Tell us what we can't and can have
Destroy our dreams/hopes/beliefs
They don't have that right
#feelingangry
#emotional
Don't text or call me now, I'll be fine!!
Wednesday, March 22, 2017
Me, myself and I
So I've been focusing on me lately! Focusing on the things that are in my control! Focusing on making it to my happy place in life! Not letting the things I can't control get me emotional, just letting it roll off my shoulders and move on!!! Right now it is what it is!!! Trying to learn to be happy with me! I do what I need to do to get thru the day!!
Whenever I drive I use to feel happy singing my R&B, now they are just another song!!! Maybe one day I'll be able to sing the songs I love to someone! That's a big maybe!!! Until then, it's about me!!!
It's my turn to be happy!! I think I deserve it!!!
Whenever I drive I use to feel happy singing my R&B, now they are just another song!!! Maybe one day I'll be able to sing the songs I love to someone! That's a big maybe!!! Until then, it's about me!!!
It's my turn to be happy!! I think I deserve it!!!
Friday, March 17, 2017
Payday
So, with my new job I make $13/hr and get paid biweekly! My first pay i netted $737 and Gross $8XX can't remember! But that's only for 64 hrs! Man next pay will be 96 hours!!!! WHEW!!!
Anywho, I was sitting and thinking! I can file for divorce with one check! Awesome! Still need apartment! Aarrggh!!!! Thinking studio since most only ask for one month, I think!!!!
Slowly but surely!
Was thinking to help him get a car, that way he can do inspections! I won't feel too bad!! But still concern with kids, yes they are grown but still my children! Their care will always be my concern!!!
Sunday, March 12, 2017
My spirit is leaving
Several things are going on:
First, it's has come to me, probably not the first time, that all he wants to do is f@@k and drink! Although he has said that on several occasions! Don't know why it's hitting me now!
Also, we talk about how we don't belong together and it's like putting a bullet in our heads just to stay and tolerate each other! But he doesn't want to let me go, understandable! But here's the kicker, he said, on more than one occasion how he believe I was destined to be like my family! Sleeping with anyone, have babies by anyone, be nobody, on welfare and happy!! My heart sunk!!!! I've been in a zombie state all day!! Nothing matters anymore!!! Just hear those words echoing in my head!!!
He also said he was over his head with me when it comes to love making because he knows nothing about that!!! And I'm over my head when it comes to dealing with him!! Says I want things simple and easy, yes, yes I do!
Trying to figure out how to pick myself up! All I have now is to allow Jehovah to get me thru this! No one should have to live with such negative talk!!! It's sucks the life out of a person! I'm trying not to be self destructive! Trying to hold on to the little bit of care I have about life and the people around me! Once the ball starts rolling with paychecks of the new job I should be okay!! I have to remember everything in due time!!! Patience and endurance
Friday, March 3, 2017
Dating
This is something that's been on my mind lately!!! Mmmm giving it a lot of thought!!!
I need a companion with compassion!
Need someone I have something in common with!!!
I need a companion with compassion!
Need someone I have something in common with!!!
Monday, February 27, 2017
My accomplishments
I often compare my life with others, knowing I shouldn't, and ask what have I accomplished at the age of 44?
I don't have a degree, own house, new car, my bank account is a never full, for long anyway, I don't travel, afford a vacation!
Well then I have to sit back and say:
You have a wonderful family
I'm not a grandmother
My children don't run the streets, do or sell drugs, sleep around, I know where they are at all times! All work! Never been in trouble with the law! A husband who worships the ground I walk on!
A roof over my head, clothes, food, an awesome cat!!! I also have a few hobbies turned part time business! Work for myself and just got a new job and own vehicle! Oh how can I forget, one of Jehovah's servants!!
After all is said and done, I have to say I've accomplished a lot!!!
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I don't have a degree, own house, new car, my bank account is a never full, for long anyway, I don't travel, afford a vacation!
Well then I have to sit back and say:
You have a wonderful family
I'm not a grandmother
My children don't run the streets, do or sell drugs, sleep around, I know where they are at all times! All work! Never been in trouble with the law! A husband who worships the ground I walk on!
A roof over my head, clothes, food, an awesome cat!!! I also have a few hobbies turned part time business! Work for myself and just got a new job and own vehicle! Oh how can I forget, one of Jehovah's servants!!
After all is said and done, I have to say I've accomplished a lot!!!
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Saturday, February 25, 2017
How am I doing???
I'm at the point to where I want to walk away from EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!!!! Just go somewhere and be alone!! Go and cry my eyes out and start over!!! Tired of dealing with Sh*t!!! Need a long break!!! Maybe even some new people in my life!!! I don't know! Too many emotions to deal with: I'm angry, pissed, bitter! I have feelings I can't do anything with!!! I feel like I am bursting at the seams with being so emotional and keeping it all in!!!! There are times when everyone is sleep I cry so hard because of how I've been feeling! I want to walk away!!! No one needs this crap!!!
Most people would be happy to have "someone, anyone" to love them! But everyone's definition of love is different! Loving me isn't just doing things for me! Loving me is also the way you treat me, talk to me, taking care of me mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually!!!! All of those are being neglected!!!! Why would he think I'm looking elsewhere! Yes he's dealing with his own demons as we all are but dayum! Give me a break!!!
A few weeks ago came home with kids just to find out he tried to drink himself to death, literally!! He said how he felt about everyone! My son got upset to the point of knocking stuff over and yelling at his sisters and I to get off of him!!!! My husband woke up out of his drunkiness (sp?) My son told my husband how much he needed him, yes my husband said out loud he was trying to kill himself, because he felt like a failure as a dad and husband!
My husband says we are all responsible for each other's feelings! I agree to a degree!!! So would me leaving result in my husband committing Suicide and my son flipping out and blaming me! We all have to do what we can live with!!! That senerio will have permanent results! Can't live with that! But can't live the way I'm living now! This part of life doesn't come with a manual! It's trial and error, hoping it's not an error!!! So do I suffer to prevent permanent damage???
I'm also starting to hate the fact that I feel the emotion of love!!!
Most people would be happy to have "someone, anyone" to love them! But everyone's definition of love is different! Loving me isn't just doing things for me! Loving me is also the way you treat me, talk to me, taking care of me mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually!!!! All of those are being neglected!!!! Why would he think I'm looking elsewhere! Yes he's dealing with his own demons as we all are but dayum! Give me a break!!!
A few weeks ago came home with kids just to find out he tried to drink himself to death, literally!! He said how he felt about everyone! My son got upset to the point of knocking stuff over and yelling at his sisters and I to get off of him!!!! My husband woke up out of his drunkiness (sp?) My son told my husband how much he needed him, yes my husband said out loud he was trying to kill himself, because he felt like a failure as a dad and husband!
My husband says we are all responsible for each other's feelings! I agree to a degree!!! So would me leaving result in my husband committing Suicide and my son flipping out and blaming me! We all have to do what we can live with!!! That senerio will have permanent results! Can't live with that! But can't live the way I'm living now! This part of life doesn't come with a manual! It's trial and error, hoping it's not an error!!! So do I suffer to prevent permanent damage???
I'm also starting to hate the fact that I feel the emotion of love!!!
Friday, February 24, 2017
Abandoned
I feel abandoned!!! I feel lost!!! How do i release this stress and frustration!
All my husband does is rant and rave about how he feels as if Jehovah is a fraud! How the Bible has double standards!!! Tired of hearing that!! I walk in the door and that's one of the first things I hear!!! I think so much about just going to a motel to live! But my children deserves more than me just walking out although it's not on them!!! WTH!!!!
Also realizing I can't have what I want!!!! Life is starting to suck!!! Feeling empty and lonely but has to be better than being miserable
Also realizing I can't have what I want!!!! Life is starting to suck!!! Feeling empty and lonely but has to be better than being miserable
Thursday, February 9, 2017
Tuesday, February 7, 2017
Being shown favor/approval?
So I been pre approved for $600 from fingerhut and $650 credit card!!!
Is Jehovah telling me yes it's okay to go on with my plan! How should I look at this!!
I want to look at it as a blessing, what says you???
Is Jehovah telling me yes it's okay to go on with my plan! How should I look at this!!
I want to look at it as a blessing, what says you???
Saturday, February 4, 2017
My Attitude
What have I notice about myself lately, my attitude is changing...not for the better
I am always angry, bitter, resentful, annoyed, pissed. Most of the time I don't wanna be bothered!
I am starting to put a shield around my heart!! It's starting to feel very little each day. As of now I am going thru the motions of life!!!
Doing what I have to do to get thru each day!!!
Thursday, February 2, 2017
I desire
Just because someone is married doesn't mean they desire that person!
My desires are starving to be fed! But I have to hold off on that one!
What I desire:
Someone's touch to make me melt!
When I look in their eyes I am 100000% submissive! Open like 7-eleven
Someone to take me to ecstasy
To be loved, properly
To be held
To be Shown compassion
To be in love
Girl Gone
So my " R&B buddy" no longer exist! I ride and sing alone!!!
Reality is setting in! I sing to no one anymore! Ha sad I am, sad!!!
Saturday, January 21, 2017
He thinks I'm cheating
So he thinks I'm cheating!!! Had a convo a week ago, a heart to heart if you will! Told me how he thinks!! When I'm out and I take a long time or say I'm going to one of my crafts stores, he thinks I'm elsewhere!!! So I ask with who, he says he doesn't know, anyone!! That's some sh*t!!! He wants to be back in the "game" I'm good with that but want me to do it first!! Ha!! This man is a real joke!! Yup..time to go!!
I got my notary business, looking for an apartment, so expensive tho, and need a car!! Yeah I can't do this!
My soul is empty
I'm unhappy
I feel lonely
All of who I am not!!!
Saturday, January 14, 2017
Need a Side Chick
So hubby is doing all he can to make me happy, even was able to get us another vehicle! Great! Now looking for us to move and gonna get assistance with that!! Great! Still don't want to be married to him!
If I am gonna stay to compensate for his hard work and changes, some changes! I need a side chick to cover what he can't!!!
Friday, January 13, 2017
Lifeless
Im sitting here listening to my favorite music feeling lifeless! I feel like I have no one to sing to now! When you can't express your feeling you feel dead, at least I do! I feel dead inside! Life is starting to mean nothing to me! I feel like I am going back on my plans for myself for 2017! The harder he tries the guiltier I'm feeling for wanting to leave! Maybe that's the whole plan!
I'm coming to the realization I'm not here for me, I'm here for everyone else! When I said "I do" I knocked myself out of the equation! Not sure if that makes sense!
I find myself falling further and further into a depressed state!
I don't want him touching, talking, breathing, looking at me! What has me feeling this way!! Could it be years of verbal abuse, emotional neglect! I just want to throw my hands up and give up!
I'm strong for everyone else but me! Ha
I'm coming to the realization I'm not here for me, I'm here for everyone else! When I said "I do" I knocked myself out of the equation! Not sure if that makes sense!
I find myself falling further and further into a depressed state!
I don't want him touching, talking, breathing, looking at me! What has me feeling this way!! Could it be years of verbal abuse, emotional neglect! I just want to throw my hands up and give up!
I'm strong for everyone else but me! Ha
Thursday, January 12, 2017
About Last Night
So hubby and I "get together" as he is holding me, caressing me, it actually feel uncomfortable! Numb so to speak! I feel it on the surface but it doesn't penetrate!
Tonight he wants to hold me and listen to the music I listen to! I said yes but I guess the way I said it suggested that I didn't want to!
The poor man is trying but I feel like it's too late!!!
Tonight he wants to hold me and listen to the music I listen to! I said yes but I guess the way I said it suggested that I didn't want to!
The poor man is trying but I feel like it's too late!!!
How I'm feeling
how am I feeling!!! Well...a lot is going on in this little head of mine! Trying to figure out where everyone fits in my life, what am I after, also realizing that my fantasy is just that..a fantasy!! Nothing more nothing less! Which means i have to untwist my thinking! That thought leaves me feeling empty!
We are suppose to go to Jehovah for all things! How do I go to him to help me fill a physical void in my life! I pray to him and he helps me endure! I guess that has to be enough!
It's shameful to be lonely and married! That doesn't go together! My heart doesn't get happy with him! It actual seems to die more!
I don't wanna just exist I want to live! What's my next step in moving forward!
Tuesday, January 10, 2017
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Some things you just don't say!!!
So Friday 1/6/17 I go out take both girls to work, I have the car to do inspections, come back take son the work, continue doing inspections, pick up girls from work, come home, put in pictures, think I also had to cook that night!!
So the arrangement is: I go out and do inspections, he stay home and put in information on computer! Why, he doesn't like driving! 👎🏽😠 I don't complain too much because it's gets me out the house! So fine!!
This particular day, I didn't answer a question because I missed it so when he gets to it,
he asked why didn't I get the answer to this question!
I said "I must have skipped over it!
He ask "Why?"
I said I didn't see it!"
He says, "How did you not see it when it's on your phone!"
I say:"I don't know!"
Him: "What you mean you don't know, who should I ask!"
Of course the bottom line is I didn't get the answer! With some auto places we inspection somethings can be answered by observation, so not all questions need to be asked! But he wasn't satisfied with the answers given him! He keep badgering, I blew up: I threw my phone on the floor and stormed out of the bedroom into the girls room! We stood in the living room arguing and cussing at each other, while the kids watched on! At that point I threw my rings on the floor towards him! He stormed towards me but were stopped by the kids. I went and sat on the girls bed!
At this point everyone is upset, especially my youngest! So as I over hear the conversation he is having with the other two children how I'm too stupid to do the jobs! How much time he spends putting the information in, how it takes him hours and staying up all night looking for the information about the company that the insured didn't provide. So he goes on and on and on!!!
My son tells him about all that I do, driving, jobs and some times cook! My husband agreed but still beefing.
I mentioned divorced to my youngest, she said that would them in the middle, they have no where to go! I stated I would make room for them!
So going along...Went back in room, he asks what's wrong with me, I told him! When you question me like that I can't take it and I flip out: like he didn't know that! Says I need to get that fixed!!! 😱😱 okayyyy!!! There so much that needs to be said!!!!!!
He says:
Everyone is upset because of me
Why am I chasing after other people
Why do I wanna be a nobody
One day if I act like this again he will murder me!!!
Why am I looking for outside of home and he hopes it stings me in the a**
What's better than what's here
He even told my son, he wants me to leave and never come back!
Why do I want to be a weak person
One thing I do have to agree with him on is, I don't open my mouth! Communication has always been my downfall!!
I just feel so defeated, tired emotionally mentally and physically! I'm too the point of not wanting to try anymore or be with anyone! This relationship is too trying! It's not worth it!!
Then of course he goes back as if everything is okay, he apologizes!! I don't accept!
I'm tired boss!!
I'm sure I'm forgetting some things but until then!!!
So the arrangement is: I go out and do inspections, he stay home and put in information on computer! Why, he doesn't like driving! 👎🏽😠 I don't complain too much because it's gets me out the house! So fine!!
This particular day, I didn't answer a question because I missed it so when he gets to it,
he asked why didn't I get the answer to this question!
I said "I must have skipped over it!
He ask "Why?"
I said I didn't see it!"
He says, "How did you not see it when it's on your phone!"
I say:"I don't know!"
Him: "What you mean you don't know, who should I ask!"
Of course the bottom line is I didn't get the answer! With some auto places we inspection somethings can be answered by observation, so not all questions need to be asked! But he wasn't satisfied with the answers given him! He keep badgering, I blew up: I threw my phone on the floor and stormed out of the bedroom into the girls room! We stood in the living room arguing and cussing at each other, while the kids watched on! At that point I threw my rings on the floor towards him! He stormed towards me but were stopped by the kids. I went and sat on the girls bed!
At this point everyone is upset, especially my youngest! So as I over hear the conversation he is having with the other two children how I'm too stupid to do the jobs! How much time he spends putting the information in, how it takes him hours and staying up all night looking for the information about the company that the insured didn't provide. So he goes on and on and on!!!
My son tells him about all that I do, driving, jobs and some times cook! My husband agreed but still beefing.
I mentioned divorced to my youngest, she said that would them in the middle, they have no where to go! I stated I would make room for them!
So going along...Went back in room, he asks what's wrong with me, I told him! When you question me like that I can't take it and I flip out: like he didn't know that! Says I need to get that fixed!!! 😱😱 okayyyy!!! There so much that needs to be said!!!!!!
He says:
Everyone is upset because of me
Why am I chasing after other people
Why do I wanna be a nobody
One day if I act like this again he will murder me!!!
Why am I looking for outside of home and he hopes it stings me in the a**
What's better than what's here
He even told my son, he wants me to leave and never come back!
Why do I want to be a weak person
One thing I do have to agree with him on is, I don't open my mouth! Communication has always been my downfall!!
I just feel so defeated, tired emotionally mentally and physically! I'm too the point of not wanting to try anymore or be with anyone! This relationship is too trying! It's not worth it!!
Then of course he goes back as if everything is okay, he apologizes!! I don't accept!
I'm tired boss!!
I'm sure I'm forgetting some things but until then!!!
Thursday, January 5, 2017
Make the opportunity
i think that I have to have the perfect opportunity to get where I want to be.
How I want things to work out in this order:
More Money, car, apartment
That's ideal but at this stage of the game I'll rent a room!! I just need to get away!! But I still need a car!
I have to create an opportunity for things to go my way!!!
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